We may be a bunch if degenerates, toxic, and despicable humans(looking at you @Lord Dingleberry ) but if you ever feel the need to vent whatever it may be this is the place. No judgement zone
Venting/Mental Health Thread
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Good idea for a thread. I agree this would be a no judgement zone.
But we will point at you and laugh.
Okay I'll start how do you guys connect with your children those who have some? I have a 3 year old and want to he as present as I can be but work and responsibilities get in the way. I only see her during the week like 3 hours a day cause then it's her bed time
All I can say is try to prioritize what "responsibilities" are actual necessities.
You will never get this time back. There is no do over. Make time! Then make more time. It's vital. Not just for your sake but also for your child's sake. Instead of taking vacation time to do something for yourself, take it for the sole purpose of spending the time with her.
Much more important than making more time, just make the most of the time you do have. Make sure she knows you love her above all else. Make sure she knows her daddy is the person in the world who would do anything for her. She has to be your everything. If you do, she will know it. And she will be a healthier young lady as a result.
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HSanders
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@Lord Dingleberry is right
my father had a very demanding career and worked a lot. but every sunday possible when i was younger was the day we'd spend together. eating dinner at a restaurant,playing mini-golf,etc. no work calls. we'd also play board games together sometimes,go to sporting events,etc. decades later,i don't remember many if any presents i ever received but i do remember those times with him. they are precious.
my father had a very demanding career and worked a lot. but every sunday possible when i was younger was the day we'd spend together. eating dinner at a restaurant,playing mini-golf,etc. no work calls. we'd also play board games together sometimes,go to sporting events,etc. decades later,i don't remember many if any presents i ever received but i do remember those times with him. they are precious.
I do I try to stay present when I'm with her I'm always putting her to sleep too cause my girl is a stay at home mom so she gets to see her more so I take over.
Thanks Dingle
I was a part time father unfortunately. My daughter's 43 now and I still feel badly about not spending more time with her as a child. Me and my ex just didn't get along and there was long periods of time when I wouldn't see her because my ex was being a bitch. She couldn't put aside her disdain for me long enough to see that it was affecting my daughter as well. As a child she would ask me why I didn't see her more often and I took the blame because I didn't want to tell her that my ex wasn't doing the right thing. It absolutely broke my heart every time she asked.
My daughter figured out what was going on between me and her mother in her teens. She still has a little resentment towards my ex for that. Even at her age now, me spending time with her is still precious. I have a great relationship with her. You don't ever lose the love for your child no matter how old.
Dingle was right. Time and attention are the most important things you can give to a child.
My daughter figured out what was going on between me and her mother in her teens. She still has a little resentment towards my ex for that. Even at her age now, me spending time with her is still precious. I have a great relationship with her. You don't ever lose the love for your child no matter how old.
Dingle was right. Time and attention are the most important things you can give to a child.
tabmixer
SKOL!
Being overseas has taken a bit of a toll on me. I miss my lady and my friends but luckily I've been able to keep in touch with them daily. About two months ago I lost a dear friend of mine and it is still engraved within my mind the memories I shared with him.
Hug your friends and loved ones constantly.
Hug your friends and loved ones constantly.
HSanders
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the older i get the more i think a lot of it is about making connections with people and making a difference in their lives. that also makes a difference in one's own life.
It does seem pointless at times. Spend so much time working. For what?
What my girl @HSanders said. Making a difference in other people's lives. Just a smile can change a person's day. The world can be a shitty place, and we're all in it together.
Last week, I was in line at a pharmacy. There was an old man in front of me whose card was being declined. He was getting upset and told the clerk he had no cash and would have to leave his shopping items there. I took a glance and saw his items were all necessities. There were paper towels, medicine, milk, and bread. I told the clerk I would take care of it. The old man turned and shook his head saying I can't, it was almost $50 of stuff. I told him it was ok. And I scanned my card to pay for his stuff. He just about cried and asked if he could hug me.
After he left, the clerk said that was the nicest thing he had ever seen, and it was the type of thing you see on YouTube. I told him $50 was not going to make a bit of difference in my life, but it certainly was going to make a difference to that old man. What's $50 to me? I do well financially. What kind of human being would I be to let that old man walk out of the store without items he really needed?
It was the best feeling I have had in a long time. And it only cost me $50!
I don't know why the hell I'm here or what the point of it all is? But at that moment at that time, that old man sure thought I had a purpose! He won't forget me.
Do good. Smile. That's your purpose. It's all the "wisdom" I've got.
I have existential crises all the time but that's by my own doing going on rabbit holes and stuff. I think you find what you love to do hobby wise and surround yourself with people who truly care about you
I've found that volunteering makes me feel like I'm doing something pretty good. I'd like to think that I helped a few people out when they were at their low point. It's not about getting accolades, it's about seeing someone who is in a better position then when you met them. That gives me a good feeling.
I'm sorry about dragging this old thread up, I just think this is the best thread for this. I got a horrible call from my best friend telling me that he has terminal cancer and doesn't have long to live. Apparently it's spread through his body so much there's nothing they can do. This is hitting me hard. I have several acquaintances but I don't have many friends. He's been my best friend for the last 40+ years. We've been through thick and thin together. He knows who I really am but likes me anyway.
I'm really devastated by the news, I feel like I've been gut punched. This one's tough, real tough.
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I'm really devastated by the news, I feel like I've been gut punched. This one's tough, real tough.
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Oh, man. I'm so sorry, for both of you, and for his family. Cancer sucks. May God give you all the strength to get through the tough times ahead.
HSanders
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i'm so sorry to read this. may he pass peacefully and without pain. i hope you get to spend time with him. even if it is tremendously difficult for you,it will bring him joy. what a beautiful gift for him.
Sorry to hear that Sensei
I'd suggest making the most of the time he has left and cherish it
I know there's not much more i or anyone else can tell you to make this better, but you got this man
Lord Chevy
I'm home
I have read this a few times now, and coming up with a response is not easy. The well-wishing is a given, and does help.
I kept thinking about friends I have lost, and realized something: as I thought, I was laughing. I didn't dwell on the loss, my mind went to the good stuff, the funny (and stupid at times) shit they did. Yeah, I miss them, but the only reason I do is because of those times.
Mourn the loss - you have to. But, don't wait to celebrate the life! 40+ years is a long time to maintain a friendship - find a way to get a few more "Jesus, dude! Really?" moments in there. You'll never forget them, and your friend will know one thing - shit prognosis or not, he's still your boy.
I kept thinking about friends I have lost, and realized something: as I thought, I was laughing. I didn't dwell on the loss, my mind went to the good stuff, the funny (and stupid at times) shit they did. Yeah, I miss them, but the only reason I do is because of those times.
Mourn the loss - you have to. But, don't wait to celebrate the life! 40+ years is a long time to maintain a friendship - find a way to get a few more "Jesus, dude! Really?" moments in there. You'll never forget them, and your friend will know one thing - shit prognosis or not, he's still your boy.
tabmixer
SKOL!
Sorry to hear that @LordSensei1958 my thoughts and condolences to you and your friend. I lost a close friend of mine about two years ago and it still hits me hard when I think about it, but I try to reminisce the good times we shared together I hope you can do the same.
Thank you all for the kind words and thoughts. They mean a lot to me.
